THOUGHTS ON FEAR AND LOVE

Most of the time it is actually fear that moves us thinking it is love. Take it from me. I remember doing things for someone and yet at the end of the day find myself asking God “Is that unconditional love?”. I didn’t get the answer. So on and on it goes until I found myself having expectations, that I deserve something. Only when I was freed from the situation did I get the answer. Only then did I realize what unconditional love truly meant. It was a tough pill to swallow at first but it was all worth it.

I have learned that love doesn’t operate through fear. ” For only perfect love casts out all fear”. Love and fear don’t go together but rather one destroys the other. I was asked a good question before, “Now, who would you allow to win? The victory of love or the victory of fear? May you choose wisely.”

The Original State

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A girl was once asked, What do you want?  And she answered “Love and Peace”

Then a follow-up question, “What takes away your Peace of Mind?” She mentioned 5.

1. When the people around me are unhappy.

2. When things start falling out of place. 

3. When I don’t feel God. I feel spiritually thirsty.

4. Feelings of doubt.

5. Stress.

 

There are three most important experiences behind every human soul. Love, Happiness, and Peace

And when we are deprived of these three we feel empty, exhausted, lost. Like we’re going on circles not knowing what to do and where to go. In this state we feel like the world is closing in around us and there’s nothing we can do. This is where family and friends come in to shed some light.  But since we’re covered in darkness, we most of the time close our world to them too. What we do not realize is,

“We do not lose PEACE, LOVE, and HAPPINESS because of the circumstances but because of the struggles we create in our mind between what we think should be and what reality is.”

Our thoughts play a major role in what has become of us. The mind is a powerful machine that has the capacity to destroy if not grow and nourish the soul. We feed our mind with thoughts of resentment, blame, guilt, other’s expectations, worries, things we cannot change, and the list goes on. BUT, we can also feed our mind with thoughts of love, peace, and happiness. IT’S OUR CHOICE! Isn’t it? We are the sole controllers of our mind. It’s not the people around us, it’s not the situations that we face, IT’S JUST US. If we really love ourselves, why would we think of negative thoughts. If we think of negative thoughts it simply means we do not value ourselves because we keep holding onto garbage. We need to discern. If I want PEACE, I need to plant seeds of peace…RIGHT NOW. It has been said that in thinking positively “You focus on the solutions not the problem.” Thinking about the problem is only a waste of thought. It eats up your energy while you go around about the problem. We have the power to create our own thoughts in accordance to what is true within us.

So what is our Original State? Each one of us is originally filled with Love, Peace, and Happiness. When we’re lost , we need to find ourselves for us to be able to go back to our original state.That’s our default. 

A positive thinker lives in the present. Yes. We learn lessons from the past, we live in the present, and gear up and go for our future. 

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I am currently in the process of going back to my original state. 

We can only be wounded by the one we love the most.

Yes that’s true. 

 

 

Couple UP!

Hello bloggers and readers! I just couldn’t pass on without posting this one.

 

I attended ”The Feast- Pasig” yesterday. It’s a Catholic Prayer gathering held every Sunday in different venues around the world (as far as I know they have Feast builders in the US and in Europe). It starts with the Holy Mass followed by a Talk and then worship. It’s like spending 2-3 hours worshiping and listening to God’s word. I tell you, it’s “the happiest place to be”. 😀

Right before you enter the venue Ushers would hand out “Feast Bulletins”. As I went through the pages I couldn’t help but notice a section for “Couples”. (I’m married now so my eyes now easily looks for the Couples section. I used to stay at the Singles section of that bulletin before. Haha! )

This particular section for this weekend enumerated of “The Ten Laws of Marriage”.

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#3 struck me first. This is usually what’s missing among couples.

I firmly agree that couples need to spend “quality time” with each other. But you need not be with each other ALL-THE-TIME (like you cannot eat-sleep-breathe without the other). Remember you both have separate lives before you met. You need to stick with your individuality still, even when you’re already inside the relationship.

Having a “significant other” in your life is not your sole relationship. It’s simply an addition to your existing relationships. What existing relationships am I pertaining to? It’s your relationship with your friends, family, community and the list goes on. Those are relationships you’ve built through time. And the presence of your significant other in your life is another relationship built and to be nurtured with love through time. That’s the reason why we introduce our significant other to our family and friends. It makes our relationships grow! 🙂

Conversations are healthy. And I mean conversations that do not only compose of “sweet-nothings” and “mushy acts and ideas” but rather those with sense and content. And to strike a good conversation with your partner you need to allow yourselves some time without the other. A good “ME time” will do. Or you spend time with friends, siblings, have coffee, shop, drink, socialize. Allow your partner the same. Why? So while you’re out with each other’s friends/siblings, the time apart would give you reasons to miss the other more. And the moment you see each other again (at night when you get back home) both of you will be filled with stories to talk about. It’s like catching up on an old friend even when you were just apart for a couple of hours.

Try it! 🙂

 

I’ll blog about the other numbers tomorrow. I choose 4, 5, 6, 8, 9, & 10. 

How about you? What number/s particularly strike you the most?

Talk about it here! Share your thoughts. 😉

 

 

V-Month

V-Month

I highly recommend reading this story.

It’s Touching, Inspiring, Moving.

It makes you want to look back on past love,

Assess the present love,

And look forward to love

That could withstand the tests of time.

http://www.rappler.com/life-and-style/21761-love-was-hard-love-was-easy

I believe that’s how LOVE should be.,

TOUCHING, INSPIRING, and MOVING…

So this V-month,

Be touched, inspired, and moved. Love Life.

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Sharing a part of a book I’m reading, I came across this gem when I went to a bookstore Warehouse Sale. Believing it’s just some book only a few would take a chance on buying because it was cheaply priced at P50 compared to other books on sale. I never thought that I’d find words to live by and thoughts of the author/s that made me say “I could not agree more”.

This particular excerpt struck me the most (though I haven’t finished the book yet) 😉 I hope you too could relate to it.

Real love- whether romantic love, close friendship, or a family relationship-happens long after (love) at first sight. It shows up as people get to know each other more deeply and often they work through tough things together. Real love in relationships isn’t a magic act- it’s a journey.

When people say, “It was love at first sight.” what they really mean is “I was attracted to that person the first time I saw them.” There is nothing wrong with being infatuated with someone at the start of a relationship. The real question, however, is, do you have a love that is growing stronger and deeper everyday?

I don’t believe in Love at first sight; I believe in Love at LAST sight. Each of our relationships has to have the potential to be better the next time we’re together than it was the previous time so that the last time we see each other we’re closer than ever before.

To know more you can visit their site http://www.lastsightchallenge.com/

ENJOY!

-haze-

Musings from someone who’s missing

Hello world hope you’re listening

There’s someone I’ve been missing

The better half of me.”

I miss sweet nothings, little surprises,

Romantic evenings till the sun rises.

I miss soft whispers, gentle and sweet,

With arms entwined then our eyes meet.

I miss long walks and adventures

Of destinations we’re not sure

Just the idea of being together

Makes us not mind, no never.

I miss endless conversations over coffee,

Filled with laughter and glee.

I miss serious talks over decisions made,

Agreeing to meet in between and not hate.

I miss building memories with you that’ll last,

Pushing behind a dark-filled past.

I miss us dreaming of things to come

Hoping it’ll come not minding where it’s from.

I miss…I miss a lot about you

I hope and pray that you’re missing me too.

“So hear this now, Come Home, Come Home

I’ve been waiting for you.”

 

*Italicized lines from the song Come Home by One Republic feat. Sara Bareilles.